Love is a beautiful emotion. But it is also, perhaps, the most complicated one in the world. People have died in the name of love, and they’d do it all over again. The way Pakistani dramas depict the journey of love and the rawness of relationships, it really hits the nail straight home and really hard. Love has never really been my thing. I lost all faith in love after seeing relationships around me end over the smallest of things. People who swore to be with each other forever couldn’t even stand being in the same room as their lovers.
I didn’t want any of the emotional mess that came with being in love. But after watching these shows, I started believing in love, again.
In ‘Humsafar‘, Ashar taught me how to stand up for the ones I love
The love that Ashar and Khirad shared was tainted by many. But at the end of the day, it was love that was strong enough that it brought the two back, again. While the conditions of their marriage weren’t ideal. While it took them a while to fall in love with each other, their love sustained so much. So whether it was Ashar standing up to his mother or Khirad forgiving Ashar for all that he had done to her, it was love that eventually won.
‘Diyar e Dil‘ told me that no matter what happens, if you love someone enough, you’ll end up attaining that love
Whether it was Wali being in love with Faraah and not getting any reciprocation or the tables turning and Faraah hopelessly falling for him, we see at the end of the show that at the end of the day, kisi ko poorey dil se chaho tau woh eventually mil jata hai
‘Mann Mayal’, I saw that complications will always arise, there will always be pressure from external forces, but if you hold on to your love, it will be victorious
Mannu and Salahuddin were possibly two of the most complicated characters in the history of Pakistani television. Mannu fought out an abusive marriage, Salahuddin could never really get over his love for the woman of his dreams. With Mannu constantly pushing him away after her marriage with Mikael fell through, and Salahuddin constantly looking after her. But at the end of the day, the two found their way to each other and gave Pakistani television one of the most heartfelt love stories.
‘Sanam’ showed me that two people don’t always have to set out on a journey to find each other, they will just collide
Aan and Harib never actually sought to fall in love with each other. Harib was already married, when he met Aan and her loving mother. Aan’s mother was constantly on the lookout for a suitor for her. But somewhere in the midst of all the chaos and confusion and the antagonists, they found love for each other brewing in their hearts, which ultimately surfaced. And that’s what I found out, as well. Love will find its way to you. No matter where you are, no matter what zindagi ka mor you are standing on.
Yakeen Ka Safar‘ taught me that not everyone has a perfect life, and the person who accepts you with all your imperfections
With the journeys that Dr Asfandyar and Zubia were on, individually, how their paths met, and how they eventually fell in love, ‘Yakeen Ka Safar’ gave us one of the most amazingly beautiful love stories from 2017. There were no conflicts within their relationships. But with Zubia constantly running away from Asfi, and in a way running away from the demons of her past, he became her strength, her cushion to fall back on. He told her that she needs to let go of all her apprehensions about not being good enough for him. That he doesn’t care where she’s from, what people say about her, what her past was. And within Asfi, Zubia found her strength and perfection.
With ‘Zindagi Gulzar Hai’, I learnt that equality within a relationship is perhaps one of the most important aspects of it
Kashaf was a woman of absolute substance. And by never swaying from her beliefs, she taught me that the display of strength within a relationship is extremely important. She taught me that it’s okay to be self-sufficient even within a relationship. That it’s okay for one to not constantly be all coochie coo with their significant others. But most importantly, she taught me the importance of being treated as an equal, especially when you’re married to a man with a strong personality. She taught me the value of space within a relationship. And most of all, she taught me to always stay strong. End per sub theek ho hi jaye ga.
‘Aunn Zara’ showed me ke hassi mazaaq mein honay wala pyaar is one of the most beautiful
‘Aunn Zara’ has got to be one of my favorite shows, to date. Zara married Aunn because she was in love with how caring his family was. Aunn needed to shift the focus of his family’s undying affection towards someone else, and thus ended up marrying Zara. However, between all the quirks and the pranks, the laughs and the jokes the two found love somewhere in the middle of it all.
Have Pakistani dramas taught you anything about true love?