Recently, social media was abuzz with the news of a groom presenting a handwritten Quran as Mehr for their wedding. A lot of people were blown away by this gesture, and it seemed like the bride seemed to appreciate it a lot as well.
This person wrote QUR'AN in his own hand and gave that to his spouse as "Mahar". pic.twitter.com/ovaJuzumTE
— عین ء (@iPakiLady) February 7, 2019
Apparently, when you truly love someone, it’s okay to be this dedicated. On a personal level, if I received this as my Mehr, I’d be pretty blown away too. It’s a pure, thoughtful, wholesome gesture.
However, as the news spread, people had varying reactions. Now, the Mehr is extremely important, to begin with. Therefore, the nature of this particular Mehr started a debate online among people who shared different perspectives on the matter.
Some people highlighted how Mehr can be pretty much anything.
Masha'Allah…. 'Mehr' can be anything which is deemed valuable for/by both man & woman at any point of time. Prophet pbuh allowed a companion to get married by just reciting a Surah, he learnt by heart, for a woman.
— Mehboob Hassan (@MehboobHassann) February 8, 2019
The argument that was made was that the Mehr can be any valuable object. This, of course, leaves room for a debate over what can be valuable for an individual at any point in time, and if value is being measured in terms of physical use or morality.
Some people said the gesture was simply beautiful…
Ahaan beautiful 😍😍
— Åťťîțůðëšh ğîřŁ (@CUtyRajpOot) February 8, 2019
— Mumtaz Hayat Maneka (@Mumtazz_Maneka) February 8, 2019
If you really think about the effort that goes into doing this, along with the intention, it is quite a remarkable gesture and perhaps does deserve a hearty amount of praise.
— Awais Mazhar (@MalikAwais528) February 8, 2019
The guy was even praised for setting the bar high for other men.
I wish the muslimas would said that, from d part of their mahar the guy must write Qur'an by his own hand at maximum of 6 months, 😅😅it may change some muslims guys at list🙂. good job man👏👏👍
— A.Sharif Alqaadiri (@sharif_abubakar) February 8, 2019
In fact, it was stated that perhaps this should be common practice, for maybe, writing out the Quran by one’s own hand could serve to be an altering experience for many men.
However, a counter-argument arose as well. Not everyone was convinced about this passing as Mehr in a traditional sense.
Questions were posed about how relevant the ‘memorizing a Surah‘ reference is.
I dont know abt exact position if it can be mehr or not but if mehr wasnt abt economic valuables then y was its minimum amount set, y isnt it just a remembering a sura or Holy Quran?
— Busybee (@bizeebi7) February 8, 2019
People wondered whether the parameters of Mehr included gifts such as these, especially since there was some ambiguity over whether or not the gift should be of economic value.
This guy compared the gesture to handing a valuable to someone who is starving.
Its a beautiful gift but it’s not mehar. Kind of like showing the Mona Lisa to a starving child and believing that would be enough to fill his stomach.
— PatwariExposed (@PatwariExposed) February 8, 2019
It was believed that the gesture, though lovely, could not possibly pass off as Mehr, again, due to its lack of economic value.
Suggestions poured in about how the groom should’ve presented the handwritten Quran along with the Mehr, since it’s more beneficial for himself in the long run.
He gets sawab everytime it's read which is of course brilliant but it's more a present for him (one that lasts as long as the quran does). I think he should have given it in addition to the mehar as set in Islam
— 🐾 (@Apartofhisplan) February 8, 2019
Well, it's according to the status of the girl & what her husband can afford. This guy could've given a handwritten Quran as a gift which would have been cherished anyway. But I feel the girl's been cheated out of her due right.
— ♎ Aurora Borealis (@PropitiousOn3) February 9, 2019
Some said that the girl would need some sort of financial security and this doesn’t help.
A handwritten Quran is beautiful as a mahr but it will not help the woman financially in any way. You can ask that in addition to a monetray amount. It is for your own protection and security
— qween (@iwdboocads) February 9, 2019
But this guy said that may be she was given the mandatory amount along and perhaps the entire story had not been revealed.
It is not anywhere written that he only give his handwritten Quran to her. He might have also given the mandatory amount along with.
We are no one to judge..
— ريحان (@kazisahab08) February 9, 2019
There were some people who had arguments that were kind of offensive, as they took to questioning the groom’s character, and stating that perhaps, he’d taken the “easy way out.”
Whichever way you look at it, there’s really one tweet that truly made sense, and it was this one:
Woh dono khush hain I think that is all what matters
— Shabbir Hussain (@shaby080) February 9, 2019
Jab miyan biwi hein razi tou kya karay ga Qazi?
Anyway, let us know what you think about this in the comments.
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