Like it or not, life is different for us desi girls on the eastern hemisphere. But what exactly does a “desi girl” stand for?
Urban Dictionary elaborates quite colorfully,
You know a girl is desi if:
She never leaves the house without a ridiculous amount of makeup on (Always on point), especially enough powder or foundation to make her face white (Goray rung ka zamana kabhi hoga na purana?). She will not go [to] a desi function unless she is dressed from head to… toe, with makeup and enough jewelry to be a bride, and the most bad-ass high heels (Damn straight). She is up to date with the latest fashion (From Sana Safinaz to Zuhair Murad, Hell Yea!)
She has stabbed you in the back at least once, if not regularly (HAWWWW)
People on twitter took it upon themselves to further investigate:
1. Desi girls can whip up a storm in a teacup…or a spice-fest in a karahi.
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl Actually knowing how to cook proper food instead of being 20 years old and relying on beans on toast everyday ????
— Miss Chanandler Bong (@_7rip) March 1, 2016
2. We get so excited over potential stalking opportunities of a said cutie.
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl seeing a cute boy at a wedding& u know u're ganna be seeing him again for another 2/3days pic.twitter.com/YQDMv3J3u0
— #FreePalestine (@tbfhqueen) March 3, 2016
3. US DESIS LOOK SUPER SLAY ON WEDDINGS.
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl looking like a princess at every function & occasion ??
— حنانة (@hxnnana) March 1, 2016
4. Check, check, check out the bling.
— Sophmanof (@_sophbh_) March 1, 2016
when you wash your face, your eyebrows are still there x #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— ✨ (@zainvbs) March 1, 2016
6. Never too young for the rishta hunt.
The genuine fear when an old aunty stares at you for too long at a wedding bc you know shes got a son #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— زينب (@zaexo_) March 1, 2016
7. Parents basically got everything covered.
#whatitsliketobeadesigirl not having to pay rent to my parents after the age of 16
— Pale Paki (@aishaaah1) March 1, 2016
8. Because we’re worth it.
-my car? Paid by dad
-my marriage? Paid by dad?
-my rent? Paid by husband
-my food? Paid by husband
— Abd'Allah (@Unofficialak) March 1, 2016
9. Which makes leaving your parents so damn emotional.
#whatitsliketobeadesigirl The hardest goodbye,a father letting his little princess go?❤️
Insta Cred;@harpreetgarcha pic.twitter.com/JBCR97MCeE
— शिवानी (@shivani_roda) March 1, 2016
10. Families are close-knit and end up being the perfect safety net for rainy days.
Overbearing family that seems claustrophobic at first but ultimately, its the safest net you've been given #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— Puneet Mann (@PoppetMann) March 3, 2016
11. But not everything is sunny-side up.
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl ?? pic.twitter.com/5sdZdE7qDK
— عائشة (@iAshiXo) March 1, 2016
12. Being a desi girl isn’t all cotton-candy, butterflies and rainbows.
— Desi Tumblr Posts (@dxxsi) March 1, 2016
13. In fact, there are some dark aspects that were also discussed. Demonizing Malala and Sharmeen, for example.
Where vocal women like Malala and Sharmeen are demonized for addressing the misogyny and injustice in our society #WhatItsLikeTobeaDesiGirl
— Fatima Wajid (@faticharlie) March 3, 2016
14. The concept of “haya” (or bay-hayai) was questioned.
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl having to hide your panties and bras but having to fold the undergarments of all the men in the house
— tasmi (@tasmiimlak) March 1, 2016
15. Societal victim shaming is sadly, one of the biggest concerns.
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl being blamed for the way creepy uncles look at you even though you're only a child
— thotistani (@Yasherss) March 1, 2016
16. Them aunties have really got some nerve.
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl not being able to wear whatever I want because "what will the aunty's think about me"
— Sareta (@saretuh) March 1, 2016
17. If we had a hundred rupees for every time we’ve heard this statement, we’d be a millionaire.
"Because he's a boy." #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— aisha (@aishakhvn) March 1, 2016
18. Log kya kaheingay becoming your KALIMA.
"log kya kahain gaye" literally becoming ur kalima before doing something//everything #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— ㅤ (@safuhhh) March 1, 2016
19. Compromise becomes a solid regular entrant in your vocabulary and the color of your skin is the epitome of beauty.
being told not to play sports/be in the sun too long bc god forbid, my skin darkens and i am seen as undesirable #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— Natasha Lama (@ImLamaa) March 1, 2016
20. Nosy aunties won’t let us be!
aunties comment on you & your sisters acne/acne scars like they're doing you a favor by pointing it out #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— official salara (@lakshrni) March 1, 2016
21. Mental illnesses are written off and mother-in-laws are made out to be the devil.
Getting threats such as "just wait till you get married" or "your mother in law will sort you out" #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— Misha (@bitchfrompk) February 29, 2016
22. Your gender is somehow made out to be a handicap.
"you're a GIRL" is your parents' reasoning for everything #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— official salara (@lakshrni) March 1, 2016
23. You eventually grow wary of the expectations.
good desi girls respect elders good desi girls get up and clear the table first but above all good desi girls are always smiling
— didi (@priya_ebooks) March 1, 2016
24. In the name of honour…
#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl having the burden of carrying the family honor before u so much as breathe meanwhile men get to do whatever
— mohabbat ki nishani (@mairanotmaria2) March 1, 2016
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