This Is What Happens If You're A Male Feminist In Pakistan

By Sajeer Shaikh | 3 Apr, 2016

Being a male feminist has a lot of stigma attached to it. While it should be commom sense for men to want equality for everyone but unfortunately those who do call for it are usually taken as ‘not men enough’. Following Emma Watson’s #HeForShe campaign, a lot of high profile men, however, came out as feminists, with John Legend, Benedict Cumberbatch and Joseph Gordon-Levitt being a few to name.

Source: Hex Jam
Source: Hex Jam

 

Canada’s Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau, too is a feminist and is known to take pride in the very same as well.

Source: We Forum
Source: We Forum

 

While it’s great to see these high profile men declaring themselves to be feminists, it’s important to remember that they, much like all feminists, face a ridiculous amount of backlash for their stance.

Similarly, male feminists in Pakistan face a whole lot of backlash too. Probably a bit more, because how dare these ”modern liberals” try to ruin society by emphasizing on equal rights for both sexes? Guys have to deal with a lot of shit for supporting feminism. If you’re a male feminist, you’ll probably be able to relate to the following:

1. Getting told off by your guy friends

Guys who aren’t feminists will take shots at you relentlessly for supporting the idea of equality. Then again, these are probably the same guys who treat women like objects, so there really isn’t any reasoning with this lot.

Source: Wiffle Gif
Source: Wiffle Gif

 

2. Getting told off by your female friends

Unfortunately, women who aren’t feminists do exist. If you happen to know any, they probably join in with your guy friends in ridiculing you or simply talk down to you since they don’t get where you’re coming from.

Source: Giphy
Source: Giphy

 

3. Having your sexual orientation questioned

Feminist hai? Gay hoga.”

Because, obviously, the cause you support and your sexual orientation are correlated.

Source: Tumblr
Source: Tumblr

 

4. Getting stereotyped

People assume you’re effeminate or that you share the destructive anger that female feminists are thought to be born with.

Source: Tumblr
Source: Tumblr

 

5. Getting labeled

Your friends (that you should probably think about changing) tend to label you with particularly feminine terms. While this isn’t exactly something bothersome, it’s kind of sad that attributing a guy with feminine terms is seen as a way of putting someone down – a point that you have probably tried to make but is lost on your friends and acquaintances.

Source: Giphy
Source: Giphy

 

6. Being misunderstood

Since the idea of male feminists isn’t exactly widespread yet, a lot of girls will assume you’re portraying yourself to be a feminist simply to get laid. You’re often seen as being disingenuous, which can be a little demotivating.

Source: Wiffle Gif
Source: Wiffle Gif

 

7. Getting told off by your elders

You don’t have it easy either, as is the case with all Pakistani feminists, when it comes to feminism. Since most elders associate feminism as an idea that is way too liberal, if you stand up for any female, you’ll be slapped with a heavy dose of ‘‘yeh humara culture nahi hai” alongside a helpful serving of ”abhi bache ho, aisi fazool baatein na karo.”

Source: Her Campus
Source: Her Campus

 

8. Dealing with society in general

People love to talk aimlessly about things they have no real clue about and share their two bits, even if they aren’t factually backed up. They will give you a distorted view of feminism, talk about how immoral and wrong it is or simply try to downplay it by ridiculing the mere idea of it. Dealing with these people is not only tiring but a dire deterioration of your precious brain cells.

Source: Mashable
Source: Mashable

 

9. Getting brutally mauled on the internet

You think you can share a pro feminism article on Facebook and get away with it? Wrong. Any such move is basically an invitation for internet trolls to set camp around your profile. Have fun battling it out.

Source: Wiffle Gif
Source: Wiffle Gif

 

10. Getting unwanted opinions

Declare yourself to be a feminist and suddenly everyone around you will bombard you with unnecessary opinions.

‘Feminism isn’t a part of our society or culture.’

‘Don’t you know that there are more important issues to worry about here?’

If only people realized that your mind is pretty much made up and you don’t really need any convincing to the contrary.

Source: Tumblr
Source: Tumblr

 

11. Getting into a relationship with a non feminist

There are two extremes:

i) Someone who hates men and their existence

ii) Someone who either doesn’t get the basic concept of feminism or chooses to ignore it completely

Both of these are equally annoying to deal with. The first kind will talk down to you and rant about how men are useless piles of garbage that shouldn’t exist. The second kind will amaze you by their strikingly high levels of ignorance when it comes to feminism.

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Source: Tumblr

 

12. Getting told that you’re not a ‘good’ or ‘true’ feminist

Feminists, themselves, have a pretty high standard of what a feminist should be. It tends to go overboard sometimes in certain cases, which is when your belief in feminism comes under fire. You get told that you’re not a feminist, simply because you’re a guy or because you’re not doing a ‘good enough job’ as a feminist. However, at this point, you’re either used to it or unfazed by it because you know that your belief is personal and does not need to be proved to naysayers.

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Source: Tumbr

Feminism is integral to our society and it takes a lot to be an outspoken feminist, especially when there are countless people who persistently try to put down the cause altogether. Kudos to every feminist for existing. Perhaps, if we try hard enough, feminism will stop being seen in a negative light.

Cover Image: FemSOC LUMS

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