This Malaysian couple has gone viral for all the wrong reasons.
The latest hot topic under contention for the interwebs is a video of a Muslim couple right after they have gotten married.
Everyone has an opinion on what they think of the couple’s interaction with one another after being declared husband and wife
The video shows the wife getting overwhelmed as she holds her husband’s hand for the first time. She reaches her hand but then gets a little nervous so he reaches over and clasps her hand in his. She then gets emotional and leans in to kiss her husband’s hand.
She then holds her head on his hand for a few seconds.
Wife’s first time holding her husband’s hand.
May Allah swt forgive me and my future wife’s mistakes and shortcomings and may we start off our marriage in a pure and blessed way. pic.twitter.com/W1hReV53Qn
— Hassan (@Hassannerr) March 25, 2019
A lot of people took issue with the video saying this seems ‘weird’. Some going as far as calling it ‘slavery’.
Ngl this looks like some weird slave and master type sht
Like if the dude also showed some affection I would be like ok but he’s just standing there like a don https://t.co/nbTLNNJSFn
— Magilian 🔮🇱🇰 (@brownricebandit) March 27, 2019
Slavery at its finest https://t.co/w3PS2AKsDu
— Kokym كوكيم (@Kokym) March 27, 2019
It was surprising how many people called it ‘abnormal behavior’.
Is this normal to y’all? Lmao https://t.co/vy0cfAuUYE
— sohni (@sohnianika) March 27, 2019
Stop romanticizing this abnormal behaviour. Fucking hell this is so embarrassing khuda ki qasam sharmindagi horahi hai yeh dekh kar https://t.co/5JIyyStohV
— Dead since 97 (@httpirt) March 27, 2019
But let’s hold off for a second and discuss this, shall we? Why do people find this weird? Some folks came to the defence of the Malaysian couple
According to one tweep, It’s a cultural tradition for Malay people. And honestly, who are we to pass comment on any other culture when we do not know the intricacies of it? And who or what defines which culture is accurate and should be adopted globally and which shouldn’t?
In Indonesian and Malaysian culture, this is how you greet family members. Children kiss the hands of their parents and other related elders. Wives would kiss the hands of their husbands. as newlyweds it’s custom for it to be done right after marriage rites.
— магомедов (@stigmaenigmaa) March 26, 2019
If the bride was being forced to do it or did it unwillingly, that would definitely be a cause for concern. But if it’s a tradition in Malay weddings, how is that an issue?
And if there are people taking issue with this, then why not debate about how the bride and groom kissing as they do in Western weddings is also inappropriate. Because showing affection like that publicly isn’t appreciated in certain cultures. With the internet, as borders shrink virtually, the issue of ethnocentrism comes into play; we view everything using our norms and values as the barometer for ‘normal’.
It would be better if we took a breath and evaluated the context of something before we jumped to conclusions and passing judgements.
Cover Image Source: @imamofcheese via Twitter.com