Girls, This Is How I Finally Managed To Move Out Of My Parents House And You Can, Too

By Haadia Paracha | 23 Aug, 2018

To move out from my parents’ home was a BIG CHANGE

Nothing, not even an istikhara could stop me this time.

The subject of my moving out and living in a different city had been floated in the family for a while now. This time, last year, one istikhara in particular came up like the bin bulaye mehmaan to ruin months of planning. Anyway, now that I’ve successfully relocated to Lahore, I come bearing some wisdom on how to take the plunge from your oh-so-comfortable humble abode to a sloppy new city full of possibilities.

For starters, establish the need to move out and justify it with your career trajectory in mind. Explain to your parents that this is your path and in order to climb up, you need to move out.

Illustrated by: Marria Khan

In my particular case, as is in any creative field, my parents always considered MangoBaaz as a “short stint”. You know, like the u-turn you accidentally take before finally realizing google maps navigation is bonkers. So, they always considered my work as a temporary arrangement until I land something far “worthier” of my time. Three years later, it was time to explain to my folks that this, mama and babs, is real and it’s very much part of the plan. I don’t blame them, the way things started was almost too surreal for them and well, the concept of going the distance with your workplace was also fairly novel.

Second, drop hints.

Illustrated by: Marria Khan

Tried and tested far too many times. Your girl always had issues with asking for permission. Instead, I would casually bring up the birthday party a week in advance, ask mum what I should wear? What I should take as a birthday present? Bring it up a few times so they think it was their idea, to begin with. I’m more than happy to report that this is exactly the kind of trickery I deployed in my current mission. I’d call up my folks and talk to them, at length, about searching for the right place. Ask my dad whether I should (hypothetically) rent an apartment or a house portion in Defense? ‘Apke khyaal mein security wise kya behtar hoga?’  Talk about my future flatmate as if she’s a part of my day to day life already. Discussing the costs of moving out and how I plan on budgeting. I even brought up finding an appropriate maid and the friendly neighborhood auntie who can cater food for bachelors like me.

The details are everything which brings me to my next point, in continuation: Have a feasible plan ready to go.

Illustrated by: Marria Khan

Floating ideas won’t do it. You have to take charge by working on the very tedious, very time-consuming budgets:
– How will you manage to live by yourself?

– What is the commute like?
– How far is work from your apartment?
– Can you make ends meet on your own?
– How your flatmate is not really a serial killer? (very important, oft ignored)
– How you won’t be passed out like a drunk sailor while your cleaning lady robs you of your latest Sephora haul.
and so on, so forth…

But most of all, mentally prepare yourself for the challenge.

Illustrated by: Marria Khan

Getting everybody else on board for the move isn’t half as difficult as getting the nod from your inner monologue.
Yes, your expenditures multiply.
Yes, the responsibility is paramount.
Just feeding yourself on a regular basis is one of the hardest shit I’ve done. True story.

First week in and I’ve already had

a flat tyre in the middle of nowhere,

Managed to not buy water and almost dehydrate in the Lahori heat.

Had to deal with this uncomfortable situation.

Illustrated by: Marria Khan


Got stranded in the middle of the road and hired some special towing service:

Burnt my arm while ironing and forgot to lock the apartment while leaving in a rush to get to work.

And clearly couldn’t afford my expensive lifestyle:


But it feels damn good to be the strong, independent woman I’ve always dreamt of being.
Damn. Good.

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