Why Do My Friends Slut-Shame Me Everytime I End A Toxic Relationship?

By Baaghi | 23 Jul, 2022

Aisay dost kisee dushman ko bhi na milain! Reading your questions makes me question, are they even your friends? Or are these people capping on your socialite status? 

 

Since you asked why, I’m guessing you require some rationalization for their kharoos hurqatain and maybe, deep down, some validation confirming you’re not a slut. But Baaghi will not tell you so. 

 

Instead, I’ll answer, what is a slut?  @salmaelwardany sahiba says it’s “a mythical creature that doesn’t exist, similar to unicorns. Made up for storytelling purposes and moral tales. Used by men, typically, men who are afraid of women.” If it’s women slut-shaming you, they’ve definitely aced Feminism ki maa behen 101! Thank you for the anti-aurat march manifestation, my girls! 

 

Society bhi shames bold women who don’t shoulder suppressive relationships! Malaika Arora, Arbaz ki biwi, bhai! has been slut-shamed for seducing Arjun Kapoor. Kourtney Kardashian has been slut-shamed and even pedo-shamed for mingling with the many young! Yeh celebrities nahi bachay, toh hum kya hain? But, here’s what you should consider: 

 

To call out or to cancel? I’d say call them out privately, for cancel culture is far more toxic than your past relationships, but definitely distance yourself. If they’re unintentionally hurting you, your silence will speak volumes, but if they’re doing so intentionally, then it’s best to be out of their way. 

Lastly, don’t let such labels scar you from re-entering relationships. You are still you – no label or falling can take that away. Ja Simran jee le apni zindagi!

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