So breakups happen. Its best we accept and deal with it. When your friend has a breakup you need to be there for them. You need to listen to them, console them and get them to fall out of love with that low life that broke their heart.
When they try talking to you, just listen with an open mind even if you think they’re at wrong.
You might want to slap them because they might be a little illogical and it’s okay. They’re going through some shit and you need to hear it. But of course if they’re being super pagal and blaming themselves for EVERYTHING then you need to intervene.
They need it! Also a good, warm hug can fix like anything. If you’re hugging na-mehram people, just remember it’s on you.
Keep your opinions to yourself till they explicitly tell you not to.
And you must also keep trying to change the topic when the ‘ex’ comes up in conversation. You must make sure this person becomes ‘The One Who Can’t Be Named’.
Feed them ice-cream and other junk
Nothing hits the spot like chocolate and sugar, in general.
Once they’re stuffed with all the ice-cream in the world, be real with them
They’ll keep bringing up their relationship and you’ll start getting a *little* annoyed. You need to start telling them how it is. ‘Its over, that person was shit, and you deserve better, get your head around it!’
Take them out for a nice day out
Nothing heals like some retail therapy and good old fun.
Don’t let them listen to sad breakup songs
‘Mujhse pehli si mohabbat‘ is a big no no. Sorry Noor Jehan.
Burn photos of their ex with them
Only till a certain extent, obviously. Don’t go crazy. Pata chala ghar hi jal gaya. But wait, with technology and everything, maybe just empty out their gallery.
Don’t let them reply to messages…EVER.
Bad idea, terrible idea. ABORT ABORT ABORT!
Tell them they can’t take all the blame
It’s okay for them to cry
Yes they need to move on, but its a process and there will be some crying days, and got to be there for them.
And never ever say the following lines, because they’re CHEESY AF
- It will get better.
- Plenty more fish in the sea
- You deserve better anyway
Don’t let them get into a new relationship too fast.
But to do it when they’re ready.
Basically, be a good friend! Don’t let that ex spoil their life, be their ray of hope in that moment of darkness.
Be their true, honest friend
That’s the least you should be doing anyway.