This is for my ammi, and all other ammis we take for granted during the holy month of Ramazan. We’re sorry. We’ll do better.
Since the holy month of Ramazan is well up and running, I’m taking this opportunity to write about one of the biggest regrets I’ve had during the past Ramazans. And, I’ll try to make amends accordingly.
Without a doubt, the month is full of love and peace with countless barkats including the perks of having Sehri and Iftaari. Amidst all the barkaats that are bestowed upon us in Ramazan, the biggest ones we tend to undermine are our ammis.
It makes me sad to realize that while my ammi works all day in the kitchen preparing Sehri and Iftari, I spend my time resting. As do all of us.
I’ve seen the memes, okay. I get it. Men don’t usually help around the house. And seeing my own ammi work tirelessly in the kitchen, I truly do wish I’d helped out more during the past Ramazans. Maybe I’ve offered once or twice. But I get that it’s not enough. After all, unka bhi toh roza hai.
It’s truly unfortunate that many sons, much like myself, laze around all day while our ammi works tirelessly without complaining.
Though from time to time we like to go out for Sehri and Iftar with family and friends, most of the cooking is done at home usually. And our Ammas are the ones at home who put all their effort into preparing Sehri and Iftari all day long while we spend our time scrolling through the internet looking at memes.
Many times, I have been quick to demand my ammi to make my favorite food for Iftar.
We’ve all done. We’ve possibly thrown tantrums, or been sulking and surly. However, we ignore the fact that they stand in front of the stove, in their roza, in this shadeed garmi. Aur hamaray nakhrey hi nahi khatam hotay!
The very least that we could do is appreciate their efforts, right? But, when was the last time you even did that? Yep, can’t remember? Me neither.
That’s because I’m just as guilty of taking my ammi for granted as anyone else. And I’m truly ashamed.
At the end of the day, hum jaise bhi hain, khush naseeb hain ke our mothers love and accept us. Heck, they even spoil us, though we don’t deserve it. We can apologize to our ammis, and help out more often, not just in Ramazan, but around the year. After all, it’s never too late to do the right thing and show gratitude.
Have you taken your ammi for granted too? Let us know how you’ll be fixing it.
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