These Women Reveal Why Their Rishtas Were Rejected And It's Not What You'd Expect

By Sarah Babar | 27 Feb, 2017

Over the weekend, a Twitter user put forth a very daunting question, one that had even more daunting replies. She says that she, herself, recently got rejected for having bad front teeth. Forget the personality and the overall human being, let’s reject a person based on the condition of her teeth. *cue slow clap*

She asked women from all over Pakistan to come forward with all the reasons they were rejected by rishtey waley and the results were alarmingly sad.

The rishta and shaadi culture in Pakistan is not one we’re unfamiliar with.

The plethora of demands from the in-laws for girls is jaw-droppingly long and doesn’t cease to amuse anyone. From the color of your skin to your height, from the length of your hair to even body language, it doesn’t stop at anything.

While we’re all at fault when it comes to satiating this societal norm, there is a limit till which we can deter from this path and revolt against at, kiunke aakhir kaar shaadi bhi tau kerni hoti hai. 

It’s not only unfair to the girl, herself, but also to the parents because at the end of the day, they all have to fulfill these demands in order to ensure their daughter has a happy married life or just a married life.

Our media and television also don’t help, in this case, either, and keep projecting (forcing) the ideal of the perfect bahu on us.

The whole concept of the girl being fully able to flaunt her lawn dupattas all over her susraal and be the perfect specimen of a chai wali


However, it doesn’t end there. The replies to this tweet that was liked and shared more than 150 times, combined, garnered a lot of attention, and we didn’t like any bit of it.


There are women who get rejected on the basis of the fact that they’re too educated and of course taiz because of the education

What parents don’t realize is that they need to bear more children in order for their daughters to get good rishtas

Or get their eyes fixed before ‘presenting’ them

Others because they wanted to pursue their careers

Then there are certain fields that the girls cannot belong to, otherwise, well, rishtoun mein thoraaa masla ho ga

Like media, of course

And engineering, for some reason, too

And also being ‘modern’ is a thing, now

The fact that a girl’s personality is not measured by the qualities she has but by how tall she is, is damning in itself.

Because that’s what it is, right? The taller the girl, the more capable she’ll be of leading a successful marriage

Ek tau sub ko doctor bahu chahiye, aur phir jub doctor bantey huey time lug jaye, tau that is also highly unacceptable

While this stands true in a lot of cases

I still fail to see how weight, or height, or teeth, or even the color of your skin has anything to do with how happy your life with your partner will be.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments.

Cover image via Dawn / Faras Ghani
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