Being the middle child growing up in a Pakistani family can be a real struggle at times.
1. You had just started getting used to being the baby of the family and all of a sudden, your status was stolen and you were relegated to being a “middle child”
And things would never be the same again.
2. A considerable amount of a middle child ki wardrobe consists of clothes that belonged to your elder sibling.
Do you know the struggle of wearing your sibling’s clothes only to have people mock you for wearing something that’s not current anymore? Like a Star Wars Episode 1 t-shirt when Episode 2 just came out?
3. Your parents weren’t as excited by your milestones because they already celebrated for your elder siblings
Meanwhile your elder sibling was the first to graduate school, the first to get into university, the first to get married, the first to have kids.
4. After your elder sibling’s shaadi, aunties and uncles always ask only the middle child “aap kee baari kab hai“
Even if you and your elder sibling had several years between you.
5. Growing up, the eldest was the boss of everything, the youngest was the baby and as the middle child you were just…there.
6. Which is why, as the middle child, neglected by your family you had to work even harder to stand out.
That may not necessarily be a bad thing because you’re an overachiever.
7. The eldest sibling bullied you but you weren’t protected like the youngest child because as a middle child you’re not the baby of the family anymore
Because he/she must ascertain their dominance.
8. As a result, the younger sibling doesn’t respect you.
It’s the eldest sibling they have to worry about. You? You’re a nobody.
9. Sometimes people called you by your elder sibling’s name or as XYZ’s bhai/bhen
It’s not like you have a name and identity of my own.
10. People expect a middle child to follow the same path as your elder sibling.
And if not, they always ask “KYOON?”
But it wasn’t all that bad. Being the middle child actually has benefits.
11. You were forced to become a good negotiator.
Thanks significantly to your elder or younger sibling blaming things on you, you had to negotiate with them to survive. Sucks for them because you’ll end up being more successful as a result of your natural negotiating skills.
12. You were able to learn from all the mistake your elder sibling made.
13. You got to do things at a younger age…because your sibling was already doing them.
Like driving underage. Or getting a cell phone at a younger age than your elder sibling.
14. According to research, middle children are risk takers and more creative.
Thanks to all the lack of attention and being left to yourself.
15. A middle child is also more likely to be entrepreneurial.
16. Having grown up between two (Pakistani) siblings, you’re more calm and relaxed.
We all know what a nightmare Pakistani siblings can be…
17. As a middle child, having (hopefully) learned lessons from your elder sibling and your own experiences, you can pass on valuable lessons to your younger sibling.
So…it’s not that bad after all.
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