Does it seem like you’re the only single person left on the planet and everyone around you is happily living life with their significant other? Don’t take it as a bad thing – there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or with being single. We get enough pressure from our ammis, khalas, puphos, and basically everyone else in our family to find someone and settle down.
However, if you are part of the single club – here are some potential reasons why:
1. You are stuck on finding your “type”
You limit yourself with types and standards so you’re not able to fully put yourself out there.
2. You’re still hung up on an ex
You have baggage from the past that distracts you from getting into a new relationship. It’s definitely not healthy if you still stalk your ex on all social media platforms. Distract yourself and delete his number.
3. You rush things too much
You are so infatuated with being in a relationship that you don’t let it happen naturally. Everything has a time and place and it’s best to let it run it’s course. You don’t have to get married a month after you meet someone. Patience is key.
4. You don’t expand your horizons
You can’t expect to find someone if you have been around the same people for the past five years. Engage in a new activity, mingle with new people, join a different gym class, put yourself out there.
5. You’re over-critical and superficial
You are way too obsessed with how people look or analyze their every characteristic. It’s good to be picky when it comes to love, but there is also a point where you are being too particular about certain things.
6. You’re scared of commitment
You’re scared of dating or being in a relationship. You can still experience love like anyone else but the feelings can be very intense and scarier than they are for most people. These feelings drive anxiety, so it’s a good idea to work on yourself and only start something if you’re ready.
7. The idea of marriage gives you nightmares
In our society, things can progress to marriage fairly quickly. It’s important to be honest and front with your significant other. If you are not ready to get married – tell them.
8. You don’t know what you want
Your standards for the kind of person that you want to be with will change as you mature. If you are super confused about who you want to be with – that’s okay. It can help to open up to different types of people and see what you click with. You can figure out what traits attract you and what you don’t want in a partner.
9. You just don’t take out the time for relationships
Life can be super busy sometimes. If you are ambitious and put your career or school life first – that is not a bad thing. You have to invest a lot of time, energy, and emotions into a relationship. If you don’t have the time then so be it. Be with someone only when you are willing to and have the means to be.
10. You haven’t yet found out what you really like in life
If you are going through any kind of life change – a new job, moving to a new city, attending a new school – that could be why you choose to be single. Take your time while settling into a new chapter of your life – love will come when you are ready.
11. You have low self esteem
If you aren’t comfortable with yourself that might be stopping you from putting yourself out there. Love your body and be confident, because you are beautiful in any way, shape, or form that you are.
12. You’re actually…. desperate
Desperation isn’t a good look and will most likely make your potential lover run in the opposite direction and run fast. Let your relationship grow slowly.
13. You just need to discover life
If you are still heartbroken, you may need to do more healing before you’re ready to be with someone again. It’s a great idea to get therapy, read books, or talk to someone your trust. Time heals all wounds, so take whatever time is needed to put your heart in a better place.
And if all else fails, arranged marriage FTW.
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