Let’s face it – being a parent is usually a thankless commitment made to a bunch of individuals who may or may not appreciate you when the time is right.
Not only do you have a bunch of children relying on you, you have to deal with their tantrums and meet their demands – all while loving them unconditionally. And we all know countless desi parents who do so with awe-inspiring brilliance. Sure, they may slip up sometimes. They’re human, after all. But they do a lot more for us than we truly realize.
Which is exactly why the following tweet by a Twitter user, @hanxine…
Adult culture is spending your paycheck on the items your parents refused to buy for you as a kid.
— han (@hanxine) November 11, 2017
…was followed up by THIS adorable tweet by another Twitter user, @KalyaniAdhav.
Desi culture is spending your first paycheck to buy things for your parents they couldn’t because they spent everything on you https://t.co/dLZYryAleQ
— K? (@KalyaniAdhav) November 13, 2017
Now, let’s back up here a little bit. Sure, we sometimes share a love-hate relationship with our parents. Tough love is always a part of the deal. They often say no, because they’ve got our best interests in mind. Or so they believe. And we may not realize it then, but we kinda sorta become our parents eventually, because we see the logic in what they did and why they did it. Which is why writing off all that love and attention as a refusal wouldn’t exactly make a lot of sense.
Other Twitter users seemed to agree with this train of thought. They appreciated the sentiment behind Kalyani’s tweet…
Dil jeetli madam ek tweet se
— bhaskara Chaitanya (@BhaskaI2a) November 13, 2017
Best ??
— Engineerd ? (@thebtechguy) November 14, 2017
…blessing her for the very same.
Wah kya baat bol diya….God bless you
— The KhalNayak (@SujnanNayak) November 13, 2017
While there were some who disagreed with Kalyani…
Don't know of any parents who spent everything they had on their children. Do they only exist on Twitter?
— Universe (@DesiDarinda) November 13, 2017
No, just being practical. That post was way melodramatic. How can you buy all that they couldn't buy with your first paycheque anyway?
— Universe (@DesiDarinda) November 13, 2017
…she was quick to combat the criticism, defending parents and their immense pyaar.
They exist all around you. Just because you couldn’t see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. If I talk about my experience, my parents always gave me more than we could afford, pretty sure many can relate. Don’t be bitter 🙂
— K? (@KalyaniAdhav) November 13, 2017
However, others were pretty much on board with what she had to say.
Apt rply. Parents do evrything fr their kids
— Raman (@RamanVirdi21) November 13, 2017
And they even considered the tweet to be really sweet.
This is the sweetest thing I’ve read in a while
— TheSignOfFive (@TheSignOfFive) November 14, 2017
Others decided to share their personal experiences.
that is so effin' true. My first salary was 5k. And I gave it all to my mother. Well, one can act all hip and shit, but can't take the "desi" out of some. Thank you for the friendly reminder, Kalyani. 🙂
— Gaurav B. (@PartRhymer) November 14, 2017
I wanted to spend my first earnings, amount was so meagre, I bought ice cream for family ?https://t.co/97KP2PC4bV
— Aniruddha , #295 & I (@AniruddhasT) November 13, 2017
And while some believed that their gestures were tiny…
My first paycheck was so small I couldn't buy what I wanted, let alone my parents
— Shantanu (@MOU5ERAT) November 13, 2017
…they were reminded that it’s the thought that counts, especially when it comes to desi parents.
Amount doesn't matter.
— Shekhar (@jacknjohnnie) November 13, 2017
That’s actually true, the gesture is beautiful
— K? (@KalyaniAdhav) November 13, 2017
A desi parent even stepped in and adorably agreed with Kalyani.
🙂 is what my daughter did 🙂
— witbit (@witbit2) November 14, 2017
And others kept appreciating Kalyani for being a voice for our parents.
Wow, this has got me literally tear up.
— Ranjith (@DevilsAdvcate) November 14, 2017
A smile on my face as I read this.. remembering my first pay check 🙂
— mumbaikar till i die (@VIPULPOOJARI) November 14, 2017
Undoubtedly, many of our parents do a lot more for us than we truly deserve. And in our selfishness, we forget to appreciate them and thank them fully for all the sacrifices they make for us. It’s easy to overlook the sleepless nights they spend by our bedside, worrying for our health or being concerned over whether we’re well-fed and content. However, to fully appreciate and empathize with our parents, we must keep all kinds of gestures in mind.
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